The Moving Target of Living with Brain Injury and silly memoir titles #MemoirMoment

I had ambitions for Summer 2022. I had ambitions for Fall 2022. However as the pages on the calendar flip on by, I am realizing that my ambitions and plans were too ambitious for where I am at in my brain injury journey. So I am taking a step back from my grand ambitions and plans and instead focusing on me as I am now and what I can realistically achieve. Because at my core I am a realist. A creative realist but still a realist.

Honestly I don’t feel like I want to set goals. I just want to focus on putting one foot in front of the other and breathing in and out (I think that is from “Sleepless in Seattle”). That feels like all I can do right now. I am in no way being dramatic or setting off alarm bells. I am just giving an update of where I am in hopes that others may have been here.

Brain injury isn’t a constantly improving thing. And it’s not a regressive condition either. It is a moving target where the target changes shape and form. One day I may feel like writing thousands of words in my memoir and drawing cute pictures and cards (usually starring my 🐶 Selby). Another day I may be dealing with increased brain injury symptoms (such as headaches, exhaustion, increased aural distortions and sensitivity to all stimulation and irritability). Post brain injury I have had a long streak of improving and adding skills to my abilities post TBI. And unfortunately that has stopped right now. For the last 3 to 4 weeks or so I have been experiencing increased brain injury symptoms. The target has definitely moved and changed form and now I have to figure out what I can do to get back on track with a target I understand. I am consulting with my doctors for their guidance.

The moving target of brain injury.

In the meantime, I thought I would be a little silly and write a list of titles for memoirs I could write. The sillier the better. I used to watch “The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson” (James Cordon is now hosting the show) and Craig would have a joke that he would use whenever a phrase in his monologue struck him as silly and say “____ that’s the name I used to dance under.” (Joking about being a male stripper for comedic effect.) Now that I live with my parents I have begun to use that joke only I have altered it to suit me and be more wholesome (since I am making the joke to my parents after all). So my joke is “____ that’s the title of my new memoir.” So since I am struggling to write in my actual memoir, I thought I would share silly titles for memoirs I could (but won’t write). Like I said, the sillier, the better!

Silly Memoir titles I could write but won’t

  • “They’re Shrinking: Living again with aging parents who aren’t as tall as they once were”
  • “How not to yell at the technologically-ignorant when they do dumb things”
  • “Sure, I can reach that, you shrimps! Being 5-7 inches taller than your short parents means having to reach things on high shelves”
  • “I Told You That Already: Living with aging and forgetful parents again.”
  • “My Independence Was Short-lived: living again with your parents in your 40s”
  • “What? Huh? Are you talking to me? Having hearing loss and living with aging parents with hearing loss.”
  • #Dogstagram: My dog has more followers than me on Instagram
  • Dog Mom: My “kid” is furrier than your kid
  • Did I tell you the cute thing my dog did today? Stories from a proud dog mom.
  • Lady Slippers: Going from pounding the pavement in dress shoes to owning more slippers than shoes.

As you can see, a lot of these “memoir titles” are making fun at my sweet parents. Because honestly we spend a lot of time together and a little gentle ribbing makes the heart grow fonder. Also, my brain injury makes me very honest in the moment, so I am not saying anything here that I haven’t said in exasperation (don’t worry, they’re good sports).

A Selby Sweetie Conclusion

Her new little Tartan coat makes me smile!
“You gonna share that, Mommy?”

2 thoughts on “The Moving Target of Living with Brain Injury and silly memoir titles #MemoirMoment

  1. Laura, I’m so sorry you’re having increased symptoms. It must be so discouraging. And yet, here you are, doing the best you can and setting boundaries that put your health first. How about this title: “You think I’m smart now? You shoulda seen me before my TBI.” Hmm. I hope that makes you chuckle and not feel bad. My point is, you’re making wise choices and you can be proud of that. Happy Thanksgiving to you and our family, and of course, Selby!

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