A plan for managing expectations

Earlier I posted about managing my own expectations of myself and what I am capable of doing post-Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). In that post it seemed like I was going to lay out a plan to manage my own high expectations of myself and then I didn’t… the blog post went live before I EXPECTED! Ironic, I suppose.

So in this post I would like to lay out a plan for managing my own high expectations of myself.

How I plan to manage MY expectations:

I find myself in an odd situation being that Fibromyalgia and daily chronic migraines dominated my 20s and 30s and now that I am in my 40s those two conditions have taken a backseat to the severe Traumatic Brain Injury and severe hearing loss and aural distortions. The odd part of the situation is that even though now I am living with a more prominent condition (disability), this brain injury has given me perspective. Now I can see pre-TBI me and all the mistakes I made trying to meet my own expectations. Now I can see what will make things more manageable and what won’t. The key is to pay attention to those prior mistakes and for a reminder I have made myself a list of how to manage my expectations:

  • Plan Ahead: When I was in the thick of Fibromyalgia and daily chronic migraines I used to plan a lot into the days that I felt decent. What happened after one of these jam-packed days? Predictably I would have a major pain flare up because I had used up all the energy that I didn’t have to spare.
  • Be Reasonable in the Planning Stage: Don’t make a mile long to do list (even though this was something I always did before).
  • Listen to my body: Don’t push myself past my limits and pay attention to signs of exhaustion, fatigue, and stress.
  • Achieve WHAT I can WHEN I can: Since surviving this accident and overcoming many injuries and disabilities I am better at seeing when I need to rest. The key is to pay attention to that. It’s still a work in progress for me.

Daily Doodles

This is from a card I made. I decided Selby made a cute stand-in for me!

A Selby Sweetie Conclusion

We had repairmen here Wednesday to fix the air conditioning and Selby got pretty tired running to see them as they came in and out of the house (each time). They thought she was pretty cute though (of course)!

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