As I said in my post on Monday, I am merging my two weekly posts into just one. This is the first of those (kind of… I did have a Monday post this week but it was just announcing this change).
So without further ado, here is my #TBIthursday AND book review feature.
#TBIthursday: Be The Person Your Dog 🐶 Thinks You Are!
Be warned: I’m about to talk a lot about my adorable cocker spaniel dog named Selby (well, I talk about her a lot so you should be used to it by now)!
The other day Selby and I were left home alone. Being home alone is something that doesn’t happen often after my severe Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). Since being released from the hospital after Christmas 2016 I have lived again with my parents. And in July 2017 we added sweet puppy Selby to our family and I am pretty much never alone (no kidding, Selby follows me into the bathroom so even that is a group activity). And on this day when I found myself home alone (with Selby) I had a thought as Selby was looking at me lovingly (she always looks at me that way). The thought was that Selby has never known me except for with my TBI. And she thinks I’m pretty great (worth following into bathrooms). Then I remembered a phrase I have seen on the Internet, on T-shirts, etc. “Be the person your dog thinks you are.”
In that moment of Selby looking lovingly at me a thought hit me like a wave: “Selby loves me for who I am RIGHT NOW. Not who I used to be before the TBI or who I could be with more work, time and healing.” I realized then that if you asked Selby why she loved her Mommy there wouldn’t be all these clauses (I love her because she USED TO BE great or she WILL BE great). *Bear with me because I think Selby’s thoughts work like human thoughts (instead of “squirrel, squirrel, SQUIRREL!”)* And I don’t give myself the same grace Selby does. I should because I have been through enough!
So, I couldn’t help but think of that saying “be the person your dog thinks you are” because my dog doesn’t see a woman with a TBI. She never has. I get frustrated when I feel people only see my TBI or disability and forget to see me. Yet, after 4 years of recovering from a TBI I only saw the TBI when I looked at myself. Thank you, Selby, for shining a light on the fact that I am definitely more than my TBI. And I will work to live up to her expectations of me but also give myself the same grace my sweet pup gives me!
Feature: Book Review- “Unorthodox” By Deborah Feldman
After watching The Emmys 2020 (see my Emmys post here) I discovered a new memoir to read. Nominated for an Emmy for miniseries was the four-part Netflix miniseries “Unorthodox.” Based on a 2012 memoir by Deborah Feldman “Unorthodox: The Scandalous Story of the Rejection of My Hasidic Roots.”
I immediately checked the book out of my library (digitally so I was able to do it while watching the Emmys that Sunday night). The following is my review of the book. I haven’t watched the miniseries yet but plan to soon.
Truthfully I am still reading the book. I had plans to read it quickly but Feldman’s writing and her description of Hasidic Jewish Brooklyn has captivated me. My eyes linger over the sentences not wanting to read them quickly. So, I have decided to review this book from where I am at with it (roughly halfway). Because the reviewer who wants to linger over the book she is reviewing because she enjoys it, is really the most positive recommendation I can give. I look forward to finishing the book only so I can watch the miniseries!
#CreativityForDays Weekly Project Summary
A Selby Sweetie Conclusion and #Throwback
Selby has a signature move that I call “The Selby.” Without further ado here it is in the past and more recently.